tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966431973683550525.post5234283698557776369..comments2023-06-28T03:33:43.953-05:00Comments on Drew's Odds and Sods: Alimony, Alimony (Paying Her Bills)drewzepmeisterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15553144737305430009noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966431973683550525.post-5192702488867513392010-09-22T20:33:20.756-05:002010-09-22T20:33:20.756-05:00I feel your pain anonymous. First off, kudos to yo...I feel your pain anonymous. First off, kudos to you for raising your children on your own! I tip my hat all single moms and dads in their effort in raising children. Raising children alone (as you know) is no easy task. Takes a lot of blood, sweat and tears to get the job done. Having a deadbeat parent in the picture doesn't help matters.<br /><br />That is a very sound advise, Perplexo. A very good way to bring that up to my son. I shall try it!drewzepmeisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553144737305430009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966431973683550525.post-42396298395891916482010-09-22T16:12:47.039-05:002010-09-22T16:12:47.039-05:00Maybe you should put it to your son a little diffe...Maybe you should put it to your son a little differently. I'm sure he already knows, and you may have already said as much to him-- but put it to him more as an invitation than asking him to choose. <br /><br />Just a "the door is always open..." should do the trick. That's not asking him to choose so much as telling him the option is there should he ever decide he wants a change of scenery/more stability/etc.Perplexiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09971805688658949769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966431973683550525.post-69097314034400540242010-09-22T09:17:33.283-05:002010-09-22T09:17:33.283-05:00I am glad you are in your son's life. My ex do...I am glad you are in your son's life. My ex doesn't even want to have anything to do with his kids. He don't call, give them anything for their birthdays or holidays. <br /><br />As for the child support I do get that when he is working. I do use that for the kids for what they need. I have to get them everything including school supplies, clothes, food and hair cuts. He don't give me extra for anything. <br /><br />It has been like this for me for the last 8 years. It has been my 3 kids and myself. He comes in and out of the kids life when he feels like it, or when he needs something, or when his girlfriend kicks him out. That is the only time the kids are good enough for him. Now his own father don't want anything to do with him. Every time he leaves I have to pick up the pieces up after him with my kids. This is not fair to me. But I love my kids and I will do anything for them. <br /><br />So what I am trying to tell you I do know what you are going through. You don't have to go through this alone there are people out there that are willing to help you through this. Also it is up to your son what he would like to do. Talk it over with him too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com